“I help kids be okay with who they are.”
“I work well with the kids who are kind of social misfits or feel like outsiders. I am able to convey that I know, and I understand, I’ve been there myself. I help them increase their self-confidence, build more friendships, and be better able to live with their own ‘quirkiness.’
“It is my goal to help these young people find their meaning in life.”
Kit Baker grew up in Charleston, South Carolina, and holds a master’s degree in Marital and Family Therapy from Loma Linda University. Kit works very well with kids and teens who feel like they don’t “fit in.” (Read Kit’s excellent article, “Ask a Therapist: How Can I Fit in Better at School?“) He is also skilled at helping couples improve their relationships, and Kit is an active member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).
Kit excels at helping children and adolescents who face challenges such as depression, anxiety, family conflict, abuse, self harm, and many others. He shares, “From the ‘Files of I wish someone had explained to me when I was 11 or 12”: You can’t make anyone like you, but you can make yourself more likeable. A lot of times in our efforts to make more kids like us, we have the opposite effect. The solution is instead to do things like portray confidence and try to expand your interests, like I talk about in this article.”
He enjoys using Solution Focused Brief Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Play Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and Neurofeedback.
“With Solution Focused Therapy, I talk about my clients’ strengths and what they’re good at. Lots of our clients in foster care have been told they’re bad, how they have all these problems. Many times their good goes unrecognized.”
Kit and his wife have two young daughters. “Having two little ones 2 and under is a challenge and tiring, but I wouldn’t change a thing!” He adds, “My 2-year-old just learned the word ‘no’ and she’s been putting it to great use.”
In his free time, Kit enjoys watching sci-fi shows, including “Dr. Who,” “Battlestar Galactica,” “Supernatural,” “Arrow,” “The Flash” and “Stranger Things,” and he likes cooking, especially Southern dishes. He enjoys being a counselor because of his passion for helping people. His goal is to help children and adults overcome their problems and regain their self-confidence so they can enjoy life to the fullest.
What Others Say About Kit
“Kit has a way of helping even some of the toughest children and teens. He is skilled at helping children who have behavioral outbursts and explosions. He helps parents to manage these difficult behaviors in a way that builds their trust and relationship with their child, while still holding the child accountable for their behaviors.
“He works very well with children and teens who are ‘on the spectrum’ and may be difficult for other therapists. He does well with children who have social skills problems and self-care problems; he helps them learn how to make friends for life and how to take care of themselves by building their self confidence and self-esteem.
“Kit is soft and kind with clients who have experienced trauma, and he has been an integral part of helping some girls learn that adult men can be safe and trusted.”
~ Casherie Bright